EVER notice our brains have an opinion on anything and everything. And the thing is that it is willing to keep expressing them at anytime day or night.
Our brains are trained to see dangers in our environment. This goes back to the caveman days when our forebears were ALWAYS outside their comfort zones - just trying to survive - looking for food, warmth, shelter, trying to avoid all sorts of big scary creatures.
"Flight or fight" mechanisms become a basic survival strategy. In many ways, things haven't changed over the many years.
When we are outside our comfort zones - or just as importantly when we PERCEIVE we are outside our comfort zone (those spaces in our life where we feel "safe") our brains senses danger and starts "looking" after ourselves.
So when you are experiencing change in your life, when you are under the pump, when you are engaged in situations you feel uncertain about, when you are awake at 3am with all these worst case scenarios racing around in your top paddock - don't panic - it's ok - its just your brain broadcasting on (as Dr Russ Harris author of The Confidence Gap writes ) frequency Station Triple F - fear, flaws and failure.
Like any other shock jock, our brain is happy to express our opinion. Unlike other shock jocks, they never clock off!
But is so important for our ability to bounce forward when we are challenged by our daily lives, and to keep enjoying the good times is to control this shock jock in our brain? I wish i could tell you to just turn it off.
The bad news - You Can't. When we are least expecting it, it goes off again.
So if we can't turn it off, we need to control it - we need manage it. So how do we do this? A number of tips for you
1. Listen and acknowledge it. Our brain is trying to tell us something! Listen to it!
2. It's only words - its not real until we make it real. Who has ever dreamed of winning lotto ? Has it happened? It's only words.
3. Reframe the message - One of the techniques I use with my clients is to get them to repeat out messages are rolling around in their head to and classify them as a fear, flaw or fault - and then simply say "says who?"
4. Develop a plan to do things that may be challenging you and that is causing this flight or fight reaction. Move away from this reaction and DO something about it. Put yourself in charge and don't allow your life be driven by perceptions of fear, flaws and failure.
Now turn that Triple F off and put on the footy!