A few tips to keep the romance in your rural relationship

KEEPING the home fires burning when from dawn to dusk all hands are on deck trying to keep the family business going can be difficult. 

Romance and quality time with your partner and family can be pushed down the priority list when the cattle need to be shifted to a new pasture, the cows need milking, the chickens need feeding and the crop needs harvesting - whew!

Romance isn't just about champagne, flowers, expensive dinners and weekends away - it is about the time and effort someone puts in to thinking of their partner and expressing their feelings about that person. 

Here are a few tips from Relationships Australia on keeping the romance in your relationship on the land:-

  • Send a text message telling your partner that you love them.  Each of us needs to know that someone loves us on a regular basis and is thinking of them.  A simple text message can be enough to put a smile on that special someone's face - even if you are only a few metres from each other! If your phone has a camera, send a photo!
  • Write little love notes to your partner and leave them in small hiding places around the house before you go to work.  Put them in places you know that you partner will go to over the week, like amongst the socks, in the bits n pieces draw, the freezer, inside a favourite cup, in the cereal box, under their pillow, in their wallet, on the seat of the ute, on top of the feed bales or in their lunch box. 
  • Make a date.  Yes, make a day/time for just the two of you.  It doesn't mean that you have to book a restaurant or leave the house.  It may be booking your partner for a cup of tea and scones on the back verandah for an hour while the children are off playing or doing their homework.  Maybe dress for dinner and crack out the candles. Some quality conversation time for the two of you may be just the romance you need.
  • Open the photo albums and spend some time with your partner and family going through them.  You can get quite sentimental and romantic just looking back at your dating times, your wedding, the baby photos, birthdays, etc…  You may then talk about adding some photos from now or an upcoming holiday or party.  Photos often get us talking about the past and thinking about the future.
  • Get healthy.  Take your partner for a walk and hold hands.  A simple gesture but when was the last time you took your partner's hand?
  • Write a letter telling your partner how much you love, admire and appreciate them.  Focus on the good qualities (resist any temptation to mention something that annoys you as it defeats the purpose).  Spend some time on it and handwrite it.  It will mean so much to your partner as we often get so busy that we forget to mention how much our loved ones mean to us.  It is also the sort of romantic item that your partner can look at over and over again when they might be feeling a little sad or lonely.
  • Hug.  Make sure the first thing you do when you get home next time is hug your partner.  A big, long hug and maybe even a kiss.  Simple, but effective.
  • Be creative.  Write a poem, paint a picture, make something or do something that you know your partner will appreciate and treasure.

For support with all kinds of relationships, call Relationships Australia on 1300 364 277 or visit

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